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Man knows contact with his old girlfriend, now married, would affect his current seven-year relationship but fears he'll always wonder what could have been.

I just feel there was never official closure to our relationship, and I suspect it has always affected my subsequent relationships.

I've been thinking a lot about my first love, although I've been in my current relationship for seven years. Will this feeling pass? Will I always think she was the one? Should I reach out and try to ask for closure?

When we were first married, we had fun. He used to take me out on dates. He knows I enjoy dining and dancing, but it has been years since he invited me out. I have talked to him about this on multiple occasions,

Tempted wife knows the other guy only from phone calls, but he seems more attentive than the husband who never takes her out.

We have been talking on the phone only. We have had no physical contact. But when we talk, I experience feelings that make me want to be with him. I love my husband and our family, but I’m falling for this gentleman.